Resolutions

I've often heard people discuss the possibility of a better world.  I've also heard the opinion that one way to make a better world is to begin with the self, i.e. if everyone used all of the bettering energy on making themselves a better person, the world would naturally become a better place to live.

Truthfully, in my most cynical moments, I find that it's much easier to see the speck in someone else's eye.  Also, it takes a lot less energy to criticize than it does to become a better person.  These thoughts came to mind when a group of us got into a discussion about New Year's resolutions.  Groan!  Well, a person could take the easy way out and resolve to do something that they can't fail at, citing the benefit to their self-esteem, such as, I hereby resolve to gain at least ten pounds during the next year.  Feeling good when you reach your goal?  Probably not.

But the word, resolution, was causing discomfort in our group until someone suggested adopting an area of emphasis.  They pointed out that having an area of emphasis did not have an end goal, such as losing ten pounds, but would rather concentrate on a certain way of being.  This particular person said that they were going to focus on being more affirming to other people, pointing out people's contributions rather than their faults. 

This could be as simple as a thank-you whenever someone gives an assist, or it could be an observation that puts a positive spin on someone's efforts.  "That was nice of you to (fill in the blank).  What a thoughtful thing to do."  Takes about ten seconds to say.  Could really make someone's day!